Photography has taught me two things over the past year, how to be a better listener and how to have patience. Prior to starting my biz, I tended toward being in a rush to get through life and reach the finish line. Life was a marathon and I wanted to finish under 2:30 with the elite. My experiences have shaped and changed me, for the better. It's not about the finish line anymore, but it's about the journey on the way to the finish.
You may wonder how photography has taught me to listen. (I will cover patience in another post.) You might think, "You set your settings, look for a picture and snap away". What does that have to do with listening?
As I've met new and interesting people, I've taken a little time to learn about them. Every client I meet is vastly different and every photo session is a different mix of personality, setting and results. When I first started, I would talk with my clients, but I was not really sure how much I should learn about them or ask, as I didn't want to be rude or nosy! I would show up with my list of shot ideas and hope that it all worked out.
Throughout the first few sessions, I learned something major in photography. It was not technical. It didn't have to do with shutters, aperture, ISO or lenses. Just by listening to my clients share their life, their stories, their joys and sadness, I was able to grasp their true character in my images. Understanding what they do, what they love and what they don't love, offered me some insight into who they were.
In every session, I go in knowing that my first few shots are probably not going to be considered in my final set. It's a new experience for most and everyone's a little bit nervous! During those first moments, I'm questioning listening to find the essence of my subjects. My clients start to relax with my big camera in front of them and then begin to open up, laugh and share who they really are. I spend my time throughout the rest of the shoot questioning, listening, understanding and remembering what they tell me to offer them more after the shoot.
After every session, I am surprised at how much I feel like a part of the family. I've actually been confused with being family at an event as well! It is such a happy feeling and it shows in my images. Every image I take, I want to tell their story. Listening is so important in photography. When you listen, you feel and when you feel, you capture that special moment.
A photograph is usually looked at - seldom looked into. ~Ansel Adams
Photography has taught me to "listen" well, not just "hear" anymore. I no longer bring a shot list with me, but I just go into every shoot with my mind wide open and my ears ready to listen. I truly experience every session right along with my clients. Learning to listen in photography, has also helped me listen more in my daily life. I can't help but listen and take mental snapshots of moments throughout my day.
Here are some moments that I won't forget...

Listen and see...